At this time tomorrow (Feb 1st), God willing, Rehema’s brother will be here! It seems unreal. I went in for my last ultrasound today and 39th week check up and the ultrasound tech informed us that the amniotic fluid was too low but the baby was looking fine. So the doctor came and told me to go home and pack my bag and check in tomorrow early morning. I guess I will not have a story to tell, but kinda makes it easier for us with Rehema, I had plan A, B and C for her. Please pray that it all goes well. When I went in last week, the doctor told me that she will be away this week and that her partner would be filling in for her, and I had a feeling that she was going to miss the birth. Well, I better go and finish packing 🙂
I have been reading about boundaries last week, the week before someone asked me something and I did not want to disappoint and so I was having a hard time saying no. Why was I scared of saying no? Because I did not want to hurt this person’s feelings. Then someone else told me, that if I honestly can’t do it, then I should respond to them and tell them ‘I’m sorry, but I can’t” Then I should not worry about their feelings because they are responsible for their own feelings. That just felt mean to me (not worrying about their feelings) But I did say no, and it was not easy but I am glad I did.
This is one of the quotes I read, it comes from a book by Richard A. Swenson, called: Margin and it does help me to start establishing boundaries.
“The need to establish boundaries that allow us to say no is a mathematical necessity. With far too many demands and expectations upon us, we could not possibly fulfill them all, even should we desire to do so. Yet it is not easy to say no. With some, every time the word exits their mouths they have a crisis of guilt. The alternative, however, is acquiescing to the demand. Then, instead of a crisis of guilt, we have a crisis of margin depletion.
It is important to understand that most people simply are not sensitive. There is absence of malice but presence of callous. Other people’s pain is invisible to them. Therefore, when they make demands upon us, they know not what they do.
We, then, must respond with grace, with sensitivity, yet with firmness: “I’m sorry, but I can’t.” To be able to say no without guilt is to be freed from one of the biggest monsters in our overburdened lives. If we decline, not out of self-serving laziness but for God-h0noring balance and health, then this level of control will not only protect our emotional margin but will actually increase it.”
I have been a member of the Sports Barn for 4 years and I loved it, it also helps that my employer pays for this membership in that every quarter we are given a certain amount of cash to help pay for it…but since things are getting tight, talk of a recession, baby on the way, unpaid maternity leave in my future, I cancelled my membership this month. I am thinking of joining this gym, it is cheaper and nearer to my house. It does not have a pool but one can always get a summer membership somewhere and the price is right. $25 dollars a year 🙂
talking of monies, have you decided what you are going to do with the tax rebate should you receive it? I am looking forward to it though I am not sure what the catch is…
have a good weekend.
I pray that peace comes out of this for Kenya
The All about Kids spring/summer consignment sale is coming up next month. I went for their winter sale, though it is a smaller sale than Jack & Jill or JBF, I thought their stuff was cheaper and cleaner and it was much easier to find what you were looking for. Thought I would give you a heads up 🙂
I had a dream last night which came true this morning, I cannot believe it!!
Thursday I will be 38 weeks, I cannot believe it. We get to do the last ultra sound and so I guess we will be able to get a more clearer view of the baby. It is funny those first weeks when you get an ultra sound and the technician or doctor is telling you, ‘there is the hand’ or ‘there is the nose’ and you are just sort of agreeing but obviously you cannot tell what you are looking at but you just go along.
I have been sleeping well surprisingly, getting up only once to go to the bathroom. I do not drink any water after 6 pm and that has helped. My bag is packed and I am hoping I will not have to wait for more than 3 weeks.
My good friend from Kenya is coming over to visit next month. I am so excited. It is next to impossible and also expensive for many Kenyans to get a visitor’s visa to the US and we are so thankful to God that she got it. The visa interview is not a fun experience, I have been there before.
Have a nice week!